Why allowing yourself to feel negative emotions makes you less reactive.

Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t feel angry, annoyed, grumpy, dissatisfied…and the list goes on.

It’s not really fun to feel those things.  

Sometimes I don’t like it, or others don’t like it if I act on those things.

 Guess what I found out.

When I let myself feel those feelings without stuffing them down, I am less likely to act like those feelings.  

When I pretend I’m not feeling those, it works for awhile. Until something else happens.  Then they come right back and on top of whatever in the present caused me to feel one of those things.  And whoa! Then comes a reaction that is more intense than the situation called for.😳 It feels a bit out of control. 

When I allow myself to feel those negative or unpleasant feelings, I don’t have to act on them.  But I allow them and have compassion with myself as a human, they are much less likely to cause me problems.

If you want help learning how to do this, we can work on that in coaching. 

It’s not about feeling good all the time. It’s about doing what we want to do.  Being the person we want to be and figuring out how to feel the least amount of discomfort to do that, but still allowing and at times embracing the discomfort.